Let’s be honest—being single in 2025 as a Christian feels like waiting for an avocado to ripen, is it too early? Am I too late? Are there even any good avocados out there? You’re swiping through dating apps, trying to make connections at church, and wondering if God is just not hearing your prayers. But here’s the truth: your season of singleness isn’t a glitch, it’s a growth zone.
Whether you’re Gen Z or Millennial, here are three real pain points Christian singles face and how to actually deal with them without losing your faith or your sanity.
Loneliness Hits Different But You Don’t Have to Do Life Alone
The struggle: You’re surrounded by couples at church, your group chat is dry, and you’re wondering if anyone sees you.
The fix:
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Build your own community. Host a chill night with tacos, worship music, and a conversation starter game like Bible Topics or DIY your own with questions like:
- “What’s one prayer God answered in a way you didn’t expect?”
- “What does spiritual intimacy look like to you?”
- Find your people IRL. Join a faith-based small group or volunteer team. We're all about authenticity in 2025, not polished programs.
Pro tip: Vulnerability is the new flex. Just be present and genuine.
2. Navigating Purity: Let’s Talk Boundaries and Grace
The struggle: You’re trying to honor God, but pressure to maintain purity in a hyper-sexualized culture left you with shame, confusion, and zero practical advice.
The fix:
- Focus on spiritual intimacy first. Say “yes” to emotional health, spiritual growth, and real connection with God.
- Set boundaries that actually work. Talk about expectations early. Use accountability apps or check-ins with trusted friends.
- Check in with God. When you work on your relationship with both God and yourself, you're less likely to chase validation through toxic connections.
Pro tip: "Human love should draw its closest bonds from divine love. Only where Christ reigns can there be deep, true, unselfish affection." The Ministry of Healing pg. 358
3. Waiting on God Feels Like a Long Loading Screen—Here’s How to Stay Hopeful
The struggle: You’ve prayed, journaled, fasted, and still... nothing. It’s easy to feel like God forgot your love life.
The fix:
- Shift your mindset from “waiting” to “preparing.” Use this time to level up spiritually, emotionally, and even financially.
- Create a prayer board for your future relationship. Include values, goals, and what “equally yoked” means to God. Focus on the person's character not their qualities.
- Connect with others who get it. Try Christian dating apps with filters for faith-based values, or join online communities that prioritize spiritual growth.
Pro tip: "His providence can unite hearts in bonds that are of heavenly origin." The Ministry of Healing pg. 362
💬 Final Thoughts: You’re Not Behind—You’re Being Built
Being single is not a curse or something to feel ashamed of; it’s perfectly fine to seek out the person whom God has designed for you. Whether you’re navigating loneliness, purity struggles, or the waiting game, remember: your story matters, your faith is valid, and your future is worth the wait.
Want to take action?
- Host a game night with faith-based conversation starters. Check out Bible Topics.
- Start a singles group at your church or on Zoom.
- Share your journey on social media—your testimony might be someone’s breakthrough.
